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I don’t mind that I broke my ankle doing something that I had longed to do for years or that my mobility is limited for a period of time while it heals, what does bother me is the onslaught of self doubt that has been entering my mind over the past week. I’ve been down since July 5th and during that time I have had a lot of time to think about a lot of things. At first I viewed my injury as somewhat of a blessing as it gave me time to research just how I was going to accomplish a lot of the things on my lifelist, however it has also recently caused me to rethink the direction my life is taking. My current employer has made an exception for me and is allowing me to work from home on miscellaneous projects that are assigned to me and they are paying me by the hour. This of course is not what I was making salary wise but at least it is something which as we all know is better then nothing. Being that I have only been with them for 5 months my built up vacation time / sick time / personal days were minimal and the fact that are doing this for me means a lot to me and my family. It touch’s me that they have shown such a willingness to help me out when all to often a lot of employers would simply say sorry, your own your own being that this was not a work related injury. Here then is my problem. Aside from the fact that I enjoy my job and they are doing everything they can to help me out, it is not what I want to do…it is not my life’s calling. With what they are doing for me however I now feel obligated to them. Is this a skewed line of thinking? Do I owe them anything?
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Re: advice needed
Thu, July 29, 2004 - 2:57 PMAll I would say isjust stay with the company you are with untill you find and get a job doing what you are supposed to be doing. It is verry nice that they are helping you out and all, but you cant sacrifice your dreams for someone. So just stay with them till your true calling comes to be.
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Re: advice needed
Thu, July 29, 2004 - 2:58 PMHi Michael,
Well, how much longer were you planning to work for them? If you are still going to be working there a few more months then don't worry about it. If you are going to quit tomorrow... then... all you really owe them is honesty. If you are still doing your work while at home and that is benefitting them, then I think all you really owe is to do your job well.
You owe first to your own well-being. Only when you are at your best do you give your best back to the world.
I truly believe that we offer more to the world by following our hearts and our paths and that this is worth more than offering part of ourselves to an employer.
When people follow their dreams it shows others that it is possible for them to do it as well. Hope keeps us alive when things are not going well. Be an inspiration when you can. We all take our turns in life doing the jobs that we would rather not. We don't have to do it all the time.
Hope that helps!
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Re: advice needed
Thu, July 29, 2004 - 8:17 PMThanks gang so much for your advice and yes it does help. Sometimes it's just nice to hear from others what you already know to be right and true. I really enjoy my job and they are, in my opinion, going above and beyond. This job is a transition job. I spent 13 years at my last job until we were downsized. My current job has at least helped us keep our heads above water. My problem is that I am fiercely loyal and the fact that they are doing what they are to help me out makes it all the more difficult for me to make the move if and when the opportunity I seek comes along. Maybe I am being too sensitive, however my parents always taught me the importance of hard work and loyalty…it’s ingrained within me. I will continue to do my best for this company be it at home working on misc. projects as assigned or on the road. The fact that they are doing what they are for me just makes the idea of someday telling them I am leaving all the more difficult in my mind. Maybe I’m just worrying about something that may not happen for months or even years to come, but if it happened tomorrow I would struggle greatly with it. -
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Re: advice needed
Thu, July 29, 2004 - 11:20 PMYou will know at that time what your heart needs you to do. Don't ever ignore your true callings! All change is hard... they will get over losing you, but you may never get over turning down 'the opportunity of a lifetime'!
I have faith in you ;-)
ra
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Re: advice needed
Fri, August 13, 2004 - 4:42 AMMichael,
Somebody at your job likes you and has been taking care of you. That is a lost concept in todays world.
My husband just recently got hooked up with a good job. Prior to that he was working part time packing boxes between jobs for a guy who just got his business started. (He got hosed over by his previous employer who kept cheating him out of hours and treating him like crap when he questioned it.)
What my husband did for the part time job when he finally landed the job he wanted was find him three quality new employees to pick from....and yeah he did owe him something...he took care of him and gave him work and a base to work from while he looked for a quality job so he wouldn't have to jump into the first thing that came along.
So start looking for quality people to replace you!
