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If I am true to myself and follow my heart, yet those that I care the most about, i.e. my children do not support my decision, am I still right to follow through with what I think is best? My children, both now teenagers have grown up in the same city, have had the same friends and are very comfortable in their current environment. To be honest, I am comfortable as well however in order to better myself financially I am willing to move. My kids on the other hand do not want to move at all. I remember moving as a child and although I got over it, it was one of the more difficult things I’ve had to deal with. I was also much younger then my children are right now. Staying put will not hurt me; only delay the possibilities of advancement. Has anyone ever had to deal with this type of situation before?
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Re: missed opportunities
Sun, September 19, 2004 - 2:30 AMWell Michael my husband and I both spent over 20 years in the military and I took quite a few unaccompanied tours to keep my children stablized. Upon retirement I wanted move back up North. And someone said to me but your children are established in Jacksonville they were born here there friends are here and they will probably live here. Your kids are teenagers in a few years they will be making decisions without you and can you stand to live that far away from them? Because chances are they are not going to stay where you are going. If you stay where you are they will probably stay where you are. Is the money really worth it? I would at least considerer waiting until they graduate and are on there own so they aren't forced into making new friends their last few years in High School. That stress can cause them to make many bad decisions.
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Re: missed opportunities
Tue, September 21, 2004 - 5:53 PMWhy not teach your children to adjust to the move? Life is full of events that throw people off. Teach your children to cope, show them why it's important to move, make it a great thing to look forward to! Life isn't always going to go the way we want it, perfectly. Cope, get on with living life fully, no matter what comes across your path: that's what the kids need to understand.
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Re: missed opportunities
Mon, September 27, 2004 - 9:36 AMKeep in mind there are many people who never left their small home towns, never had a chance to see other cultures or cope with other mindsets. You hear them in their 40's and 50's complaining miserably that if they'd only gotten out of Podunk, Iowa they could have been somebody.
My childhood family of 7 moved from NM to CA when I was in fifth grade. I was glad to have a chance to start over and re-invent myself.
My kids are now in college. When I got divorced and moved away I gave them the option of coming with me on a drive across the U.S. They declined and stayed with Dad to be near their church and school friends. It all turned out fine in the end. They got what they wanted, I got what I wanted...we all won.
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Re: missed opportunities
Sun, October 3, 2004 - 9:02 PMYep....know what you're feeling. So what did you decide
